The Art of Holding On : Ship or Peeps?

 I came across a few random quotes online that go by,

“Adulting is postponing your emotions because you have deadlines to catch”

I agree and this is relatable in so many ways.

I didn’t believe in this back when I was younger. I mean, why must we suppress our emotions? Aren’t we allowed to feel, whereas Allah is the one who gives us the ni’mah of feeling? Is it even healthy to do so? 

But it’s relatable. Sometimes, we have no choice but to suppress, for the benefit of many and protection for we may overreact when we are emotionally unstable. It’s true. Well... If that makes sense in that way, then the hadith relieves me knowing that Allah would reward me for holding on since it’s out of my control on so many levels.

Thus I call it…. The art of holding on.

To hold on to my faith but, respect others.

To hold on to my belief but choose words and ways to express it.

To hold on to my dreams without having to over-explain.

To hold on to processes that have yet to progress.

To hold on to hurt past that time hasn’t healed– ‘cause Allah shall decide when the wound would stop bleeding and scars go.

To hold on… to Him. The One and Only.

 

Holding on in this era and age is such a love-hate battle for me. Through my humble experience in my late 20s, I’ve seen a lot of unnecessary but classic overlapping. This sparks my interest even more in philosophy haha. The fusion of art and science in doing hard things to achieve a simpler life, I guess.

 

Conventional vs Religion

Good vs Nice

Curious vs Care

Knowledgeable vs Educated

Genuine vs People Pleaser

Well… The list could go on and on.

It seems like it’s a never-ending debate if we were to bring it to the table.

 

It takes a lot to complement the intra and interpersonal interests. You are not for everyone and not everyone is for you. And at times, once you choose yourself and what you want to pursue, things may fall into place yet those people in that same boat, may not be the people who want/will sail the journey with you too.

Would you still sail?

Or find another ship?

 

Which, the ship may destined at another place you never wanted to go or in a ship you are not keen to be in or maybe the rest of things are not as good as the first ship, but the people love you beyond you could imagine?

What would you hold on to?
The ship (dream) or the people (environment)?
Whatever it is…. You need to sail (live) still.

 

As a dreamer, to be honest, I would hold on to my ship.

Because my ship keeps me sailing.

And slowly, I’ll find my people along the way, despite they are sailing in another ship.

 

(I guess I’m pretty much summarizing my life lol).

 

I don’t know. There’s no specific yes or no on this. And at times, I may change my mind. Or with experience, I may develop opinions, same goes for reading the ayah I’ve quoted. It took me years for my ego to mellow and comprehend that in different ways. Yet the hadith remains, to guide us till the end of time.

By the end, with the limited knowledge that I have, I guess, it’s okay either way. To sometimes hold different opinions, change our minds or even disagree with the majority or be among the minority. There’s nothing fancy in being part of the crowd or among the rare breed, if we are not terpaling, we are all good to go? Haha, simple math though.

I’m still choosing ships, yes. But which ship? The engine, the captain, the route, I’ve yet to decide to be honest. Probably I’ll choose the one that I can plan the itinerary myself? I’m a perfectionist, but not rigid. I love things to work accordingly but I’m flexible to changes as well. Or maybe I’ll choose the room? If I can stay alone all the time to myself, then I’m good to go haha! Alright… fair enough that I’m holding on to my introversion, which makes me to be this powerful, in penning than voicing out my thoughts. To be me and live a meaningful life!

Okay! So, I’m holding on to that then.

Holding on and pausing whatever needs, for as long as I don’t lose me and Him, I’m good to go?

Bismillah!

So, what are you holding on to?

May it work for you.

May it let you be YOU (tiful) :)

 

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